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First, think about what all the great money makers in this profession have posessed that you’ve ever come into contact with.  If you’re coming up blank, I’ll help you out.  Confidence.  It’s the single greatest asset you can obtain in this business, if you don’t already have it.  And in case you don’t, I’ll give you a couple pointers to get you started.

1.  Preparing for work will make you confident.  I’m not talking about doing your hair and make-up exactly, but those things being on point will help.  I’m talking about knowing how to approach a potential customer, how to ask one for that third and fourth dance.  How to appear like you have what the customer is seeking or desiring.  And these skills are learned from practice and making the most of your time at work.  The more positive you are, the more confident you will be.  Keep working everyone, but maintain your confidence about the situation.  Just because someone turned you down once, it’s not a given that they will again.  Be just as happy and positive as you were the first time you approached them.  Have you ever noticed that when you get on a roll at work, it seems like everyone wants a piece of you?  There’s many reasons, but the main ones are it builds your confidence and secondly is most people are followers and want what other people have.  The busy girl becomes desirable.  Be that girl.

2.  Secondly, to exhibit the confidence you want to, you must believe in what you’re doing.  You must believe that you are offering the best the club has to offer.  You must believe that there isn’t one girl there who can do a dance better then you, that there isn’t one other girl there who can give the customer the experience you can offer them (i’m not talking about extras either).  This belief is where confidence comes from.  Something that definately helps your belief in yourself, is doing your homework.  Talking with those who are very successful around you, reading sales books or articles, and most importantly checking this blog, and others =),  for tips and info on how to be a successful dancer will give you insight and the knowledge that will boost your confidence 100 fold. 

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1.  Be Proactive!  Being proactive is one of two responses to any given situation.  You can be proactive or reactive.  The difference is when you are reactive you blame other people and circumstances for your problems.  Like blaming someone for getting you too drunk at work, spending too much time with a friend at work, or a customer ruining your nite and your ability to make money that day.  Being proactive is the exact opposite.  You have the ability to observe your situation or problems, at home or at work, and have the ability to do something about it.  You actively are making choices all the time and you have the capabilities to ultimately alter how your lifes goes in the next minute, hour, or days.  Take responsibility for what you do!

2.  Begin with the end in mind!  Visualization is important for being successful in life.  And successful dancers know what they want and how to get it.  They view themselves as successful and beautiful, and capable of doing what they set their mind to.  Viewing yourself positively influences how you feel about yourself, and will reflect in your personality at work and in other parts of your life.  Confidence is sexy, and sexiness makes alot of money in this line of work.

3.  Put First things First!  Prioritization of short term goals is monumental to being successful in life.  If you are trying to save for something or have a bill that’s due like yesterday, you must set out how you are going to fix these wants or needs.  Focus on results and what will take you there.  If you have to make so much that nite, think about how you are going to achieve that.  How are you going to go about doing it, and what will you do when you do achieve your goal.  Flying by the seat of your pants is not something a successful dancer does.

4  Think Win/Win!  This is more about thinking positively for negative circumstances that will occur at work or in life in general.  Think of something that will benefit you even though you being faced with a delimma at work, whether it’s problems with staff, other dancers, or even customers.  If you are able to make yourself ok with what has happened, and think of a solution that will nullify the other person’s feelings on the problem, everyone comes out ahead.  And while this can be a very cut throat business, it doesn’t mean you have to be.  Club owners will come to respect and value you even more if you are coming up with solutions instead of causing problems.

5.  Sharpen the Saw!  This doesn’t really pertain to work, but it does to your personal life.  Pursue what makes you happy.  It will keep you in a positive mood, and will make you want to be more successful at work.  Unwinding in a positive manner, rewarding yourself for a great nite at work.  These are immediate gratifications that show you what you can accomplish and will keep you doing what makes you successful.  It’s also great for your state of mind, which in this business, can be a real ego killer sometimes.  Take care of yourself, because there are very few others who will do it for you.

 Chandra and Josh

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1.  Thinking every girl is going to be your friend.  In this business you learn that the only person you can trust 100% is yourself.  If everyone thinks you are ignorant and trusting, they will take advantage of you and take everything they can from you.  Your best friend is you.  You know yourself way better then you know any of the people you work with.  This business can be very cut throat, and letting someone take advantage of you not only hurts financially, but also can hurt your attitude and self confidence.  Don’t let anyone take that away from you.

2.  Never Go Home with a Customer!  Yeah he or she might be cute, cocky and wanna make all your problems go away, but he won’t.  Customers are in love with the idea of you, not the person you actually are.  And some guys might seem nice but in reality could be some crazy stalker that will kidnap you or worse.  Or he may just want to con you out of your hard earned money and leave you stranded in St. Louis.  (this has happened to me!)  Learn from others mistakes and you will be well ahead of the game.

3. Don’t Date Co-workers or Other Dancers! Other dancers and co-workers have been in the game longer than you have and dating them is probably not a good idea. Some bouncers and bartenders think that sleeping with as many dancers as possible is a game. They have great game and they will say anything to get into your pants. Dating other dancers is way worse than co-workers because dancers can be vendictive and conniving and extremely jealous. Jealousy always leads to fights in this business and there never small ones.  Shoes and weave usually go flying. So to avoid the stitches and the black eyes, don’t mess with other dancers, bouncers, bosses and bartenders.

4. Never Leave Your Money Out in the Open! Some girls are so desperate to be after that dollar, that they will snatch up the money that you have worked so hard for. When you’re on stage or working the floor, always have your money in hand or in a secure purse or Crown Royale bag. Girls and customers will both pick up a purse and walk away with it. This has happened to me too. A club that I had worked at and trusted had some new girls that I didn’t know and I set my purse down for a second to get dressed and it was gone. I knew it was one of the new girls because we were in the dressing room when it happened. Don’t always keep all your money on you at the same time, a bank account works fantastic to keep you secure and safe.

5. Hustle Your Ass Off!  Most dancers on a dead night will sit on their ass and complain that they aren’t making any money.  Even if there aren’t a ton of customers in the club, the guys who are in there are usually there to spend money. Even if you have to  sit and talk to a guy for awhile, they will be more willing to spend some cash if they are comfortable with you and think that you’re interested in conversation, not just their money. If you are used to hustling and it becomes second nature, you will make alot of money in a real big hurry.

6. Don’t Wear Too Much Make-up or Jewelry! Some girls will wear ALOT of make-up and look like circus clowns. Most guys like girls that are naturally beautiful and not trashy. Girls who cake on blue lipstick and gaudy sparkly eyeshadow don’t look pretty, they look like a cheap whore. Natural beauty will get to alot farther in this business then caking on the shit load of make-up some girls do. Wearing to much jewelry is not attracrive either. If when you dance, you jingle, you are wearing WAY too much jewelry. A braclete is cool but don’t wear 5-10 because they bang around when you’re dancing and its hard to focus on the dancer. Customers are distracted by the noise. Wearing giant earrings is not becoming on anyone. They make your head look funny. Come on ladies, if you’re pretty, don’t go over board with something that’s supposed to accent you’re beauty, not cover it up.

7. Don’t Avoid a Customer Who Isn’t Your Type! Guys who don’t appeal to your sexual preference don’t always think the same of you. The nerdy looking guys have money and they just need a beautiful women to charm it out of them. In my experiance, the kids who look like virgins usually are. Those guys make the best repeat customers because they will bring their whole pay checks just to impress you. When a guy runs out of money, don’t treat them like shit because they will come back and bring you more money.

8. Don’t Get Angry if Someone Says No! For every one customer that tells you no, there are five more that will tell you yes. So if you’re having a bad night, don’t get discouraged. Everyone has bad nights, even girls who have been in the game for 5, 10 or even 20 years. It gets better, I promise. Sometimes a guy will turn you down because they are intimidated by the way you dance or how pretty you are. Just let them know that you’re not going to kick their ass or that you’re not a stuck up bitch. When they are not intimidated, they will spend money.

9. Don’t Get Too Drunk at Work! Being the drunk chick at work might be fun then, but when you’re hungover the n makext day and realize that you didn’t make any money the night before, it makes it that much worse. If the bartender is feeding you shots and customers are buying you shots, it’s always good to remember that you’re responsible for you and that shots should be taken in moderation. You make more money when you’re not really drunk and work is alot more fun because you get to laugh at all the other drunk people. If you are going to drink, remember to always watch you’re drink or just stick with shots, it’s safer because no one can drop something in you’re drink. It’s not just a scary story either. It really happens.

10. Show Up to Work On Time! It’s a fun interesting job that has alot of freedom, but it’s still a job. You have alot of  freedom and you are your own boss, but you can lose alot of face by not showing up to work on time. Besides, if you’re there then you can make money instead of not being there and missing an early bachelor party or a really good customer. If you’re reliable, the boss will be more likely to forgive you and give you the full base pay.

That’s all I have ladies, just learn from my mistakes and you will make lots of money in this buisness.  Thanks.

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Chandra and Josh

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The number one thing is you will need to pay attention to detail.  That includes every aspect of you AND the customers who are present in the club.  Even the smallest change can elicit a big change in how much you make, and that’s what this site is for, to help you make more then what you are making now.  Attention to detail includes all facets of what you are presenting to the customer.  Your hair, skin, face, nails, body and costume.  Every single thing that is visible on you must be taken care of and well maintained.  You need to present an ideal, a fantasy, a sort of dream the customer is looking for.  Anything less and you are short changing yourself of the potential money you could be making.

The other part of this is attention to the customer.  You will need to be a type of chameleon in regards to what the customer wants.  Getting to quickly know a customer can benefit you immensely, as far as what they like or dislike, and how you can use this to your advantage.  You also have the ability to make a few generalization about certain types of customers, younger ones may like a little rougher or a fun personality, while older gentlemen like it softer and sexier.  Playing to the audience is monumental to making more on stage. 

 We will continue to explore more areas of being an exotic dancer tomorrow and in much more detail going forward in specific areas.  Thank You and make a Great Day.  They don’t just happen.

josh and chandra

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