In our first look at the idea of Zen Stripping, we discussed things you can do right now to focus on making more money at the club.  Today, we are going to talk about altering the way you view your past experiences and future expectations to help you always remain positive in the present. 

Your Past is a Wall

Being completely present in whatever it is you do can lead to great achievements, quality work, creativity, and success.  But the ability to focus entirely on a certain moment in time can be difficult, especially when memories of past short-comings, failures, and disappointments come to mind.  Our mind is constantly drawing up these memories to protect us from future let-downs.  However, this is one of the most limiting frames of mind you can let yourself fall into.

Thoughts of the past can be very detrimental to our self-esteem and present happiness.  Knowing that we are not getting any younger and remembering lost loved ones or opportunities can lead to sadness and ultimately an underlying stress in our everyday lives.  If you are constantly living in the past and are comparing to what you have right now, you will find it almost impossible to find happiness in the present.

Limiting yourself to what you have experienced in the past to what you are trying to accomplish today can lead you to a state of not being able to move forward.  In order to forge ahead, you have to dismiss past experiences, and believe that what you are trying to accomplish is totally within your grasp, despite past outcomes.  Once you believe it is possible, you then must go ahead and take action to make it happen.

When you fully believe something is possible, you begin to create an environment around you that enables you to meet your goals.  You begin to alter your own life situation so much that it becomes an inevitable outcome of what you are working towards.  You know that if you take these certain actions now, the goal is ultimately at hand.  That’s why it is so important to not let your past experiences hold you back from achieving what you want today.

This way of thinking forces you to take focus and action on what is crucial right now.  You begin the journey to what you want and only draw on your previous experiences for what will truly help you achieve what you desire.  Drawing on your strengths from past experience, you begin to build new strengths that help you maintain your drive and focus.  And knowing that others have been able to achieve what you so strongly desire, only gives you more confidence that you too can accomplish the same.  Don’t let the past hold you back because of past failures.  Use the past to draw on what works and what you have already done to forge even farther ahead.

Future Thoughts as Stress

Thoughts about the future hold mystery and the potential for much joy and happiness.  But when you want something so bad and think about how far away it is or that you don’t have what you want right now, you begin to feel despair at the realization that it isn’t possible at this moment.

Planning for the future is prudent and good for you when you understand what you must do right now to make those goals achievable for you.  But if you spend time working towards a goad and the end result doesn’t seem any closer, you can feel a great sense spinning your wheels and going no-where.  The important thing is to use goals as motivation to act now, not to become so strongly attached to them that you are miserable when they are not here right now.

Back in the Now

Talking about how you should perceive your past and future is really about how you view the present.  You can take your past and future views to draw strengths and motivation.  But viewing the past and future as compared to what you have right now is a sure way to be unhappy when you realize it isn’t “reality.”

Most of the time thoughts about the future and past lead to being distracted from what’s truly important right now.  Thinking about anything besides the present usually leads to an inability to really enjoy the moment and holds you back from succeeding at the job in front of you.

If you want to sell more dances at the club, you must be fully present when talking to that customer.  If you want an amazing stage presence, you can’t be thinking of past mis-steps or if you look bad in your costume.  You must focus entirely on delivering a great show and everything that you must be doing to pull it off.  Eliminate all thoughts that are not associated with what’s going on RIGHT NOW.

Putting it all Together

Focusing on the present and the experience it is providing you allows for you to grow as a human being.  Facing a difficult challenge is hard, but if you immediately think it’s not possible because of past experiences, you are dead in the water.  You will face challenges like this all of your life.  Being present in your life has the bonus of providing flexibility.  You have choices when something difficult comes your way.  You can run from it, ignore it, or embrace it and take parts of the experience away to build on other experiences from your past.  This is how you you achieve success and ultimately grow as a person.

Understanding that when you eliminate limiting beliefs from your past, stop attaching your happiness to things you want in the future but don’t have right now, and nurture your abilities and determination on what is important today, you are completely free.  You are free from the stress of past and future, and you have the chance to focus and really enjoy what you are doing right now in the present.

Josh & Chandra

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It’s true that money can come quick and easy at times in this business of exotic dancing.  But what is it all for?  Is it for your family?  Pay off past debts?  To support a habit?  Sometimes you need to take a step back and re-evalutate what exactly is important to you and put your time and energy into that motivating factor. 

If you are working for your family, don’t spend all your time at work because you’ve just defeated the main purpose of working for them.  How are you supposed to see them happy if you’re never around?  And if you’re working to pay off past debts, it wouldn’t really make sense to be racking up more debt at the same time, because you will NEVER get ahead then.  You must learn to live well WITHIN your means.  Money doesn’t always come fast and easy.  Many are facing this hard-to-swallow truth right now as we are in the midst of a real economic recession right now.  Finally, if you’re going to work only to support your drinking or drug habit, you are missing life.  Period, end of story.  You are wasting your money, your time, and likely space in this world.  Nevertheless, if you are going to work to support a habit, maybe it’s time to face the problem you’ve been avoiding and address it head on.  You can never escape your problems, they will always follow you.  Deal with them now because they’re not going away anytime soon.

The main point of this post is just to take a moment and reflect on why you work so hard.  Remember to enjoy the fruits of your labors with the ones you love.  Remember to be vigilant on impulse spending.  And finally, remember that when faced with a major obstacle or hardship in life, you can’t just avoid your problem.  Take care of yourself and make the most of the time you are here.  Somebody out there cares about you, and more then likely you care about someone out there also.  It’s all about priorities.

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